Marriage

So, I was racking my brain for a title, and everything that came to mind made it sound like a depressing blog, so I went with a simplistic title. I think I have been thinking more about marriage lately since my husband and I have an upcoming anniversary. Do any of you ask yourselves nowadays, where is the safe point in my marriage? What I mean by this is, when do you not have to worry about your marriage not lasting?

I have always known that I wanted to marry one person and be with that person for the rest of my life. I am by no means a traditional person, but this was something that I felt strongly about. That is not to say that if I was cheated on or abused (not that my husband would do either of these things) that I wouldn't leave. I just always wanted it to happen just once. I always remember, when I was younger, thinking that if you made it to 15 or 20 years, you were in the safe zone. You didn't have to worry about your marriage breaking up. Now, you see people who are married 20, 30, even 50 years, divorcing.

I remember my dad telling me before about the 7 year itch. He said that is when you look at your marriage and decide if this is who you want to be married to for the rest of your life or not. He said it a little better than that, but you get the point. Now, like I said before, I always knew that I wanted to only marry once, it is just hard for me to see people who don't take marriage as seriously. I am not saying that everyone whose marriage ends did not take it seriously, it is just that the numbers are staggering. I think it would be fair to say that, if you are cheating or abusing someone within a marriage, you did not take it seriously. That is just me. I think that instead of taking the marriage seriously, you are taking it for granted. When my husband and I were looking over the vows, I knew I would not say obey. To me, I don't think I should have to obey anyone, just like I don't expect my kids to "obey". I want them to be polite and open with me and follow the rules, just like I would expect myself to do the same in marriage.

I know this is a tad rambling. It is just something that has really bugged me. Do any of you ever wonder the same thing? As secure as we are with ourselves, sometimes you always have those flitterings of doubt, even if you know they are unfounded. I just like to have that security and I know a marriage is always a work in progress, but as a naive little girl, it was always nice to think that there is a point in marriage where you know you are "safe" and it will never end. I am sure that I have that with my husband, again, just ramblings. What are your thoughts?